Wiether we know it or not we live in a society that has given up, plauged by debt, fear and the raising of our children without a cycle of abuse. We’ve as a people have come so far and so small at the same time. The Jones Mentality has infected and overwhelmed a generation that thinks everything should be given to them without the hard work and sacrafice that goes with it.
It’s easy to begin to feel that all hope is gone. Families are readily willing to give up hope and exchange fear for divorce. We are not taught, in all our schooling how to raise a family and get through the hard times of marriage. Mainly because of the age we are in marriages are suffering because neither party wants to given in and get stuck in a cycle of abusive power struggling. Other may think the grass is greener on the otherside and for some that may be the case. But REAL LOVE IN A MARRIAGE will always “will-out”. Saving our family is not something you can NEVER give – in for. Try setting some communicaton limits and practice just listening without judgment and anger. If your spouse is angery, try to listen and ask or discipher why they are really mad. Usually its not about what you are talking about (especially women) keep it keenly and short with a clear understanding for your partner. Stick to the truth and don’t try embellish sometimes the plain old truth is so much more revealing. If your the listener, LISTEN!; it doesn’t cost you a thing and see your part in the action or fault. Not taking responsiblity and smothering your partner with righteousness and blame will not inspire truth or honesty or trust.
The Divorce Mediator 