REBUILDING YOUR LIFE’S PLAN

REBUILDING YOUR LIFES PLAN…AFTER SEPERATION AND DIVORCE!

Most people leave for many ideas of which are rooted in anger; without really knowing what is at the root of that anger. While many will offer advice that seems right in a broad spectrum to cover many divorce issues, some may fit but most don’t come close for one main reason.

No situation is the same.

Take my word as a woman who took many years to try to “fix” what’s wrong; when suddenly in a dream it came to me that it wasn’t “fixing” the answer. Healing is.

People often forget in the anger to “listen” to their partner and that “hearing” is NOT THE SAME THING!

Love has its roots in good intentions, yet in anger or pain, it can turn into obsession or an addiction you can’t let go of no matter what your heart and mind is telling you. And your relationship can fall into patterns and predictable traps. Which can make the relationship more un-healthy then what it started with if the patterns when created where recognized and faced honestly.

However its easy to say and even harder to do because people when in love are not “reasonable” and many make the mistake of counseling with family and friends who use their own personal relationships to offer advice instead of just listening so you can talk through what is the real issues.

In this day and age people find it easy to look at divorce to solve their issues. Not considering where their soul, heart, or their own feelings lie. The only real way to find where you are is taking time, space and setting down with a good blank diary and start at the beginning. You can’t make or force your will on your partner, but you CAN help them understand without argument why you feel the way you do.

I never advocate one way or another on divorce or staying with a spouse I’ve never met. Marriage is ordained by the blood of God and the only recognized relationship between man and woman. But let me say this, “Listening” not “Hearing” and “Healing” is your objective nothing more.

I learned through the same process, that even though my love was honest it was obsessive and built on the wrong foundations. However after 15 years I decided because of my illness that I didn’t want to spend the little life I have left trying to fight through issues I wanted to heal yet He didn’t want changed.

But I say again, every situation is different and you need to make your decision about you and rebuild you Life’s Plan with you in charge. Everyone has a story to tell, past or present the clue is to let it go, again easier said then done, but you have to want it ore then anything else. Its going to be hard, you will cry, pray beg, get angry but DON’T fight it. Its apart of the healing and your key to knowing you and what is good for you. Don’t let it break you jet let it reassure your humanity and whatever you do or don’t believe in either call on that God / Goddess or your inner spirit and fight only for your survival.